I'm talking about someone you can genuinely laugh with; just enjoying someone's company with no pressure about the future or defining the relationship AS a relationship because it doesn't HAVE to be. It would be nice to have someone you can hang out with every now and then and not feel as if you have to define anything. I want a friend I can be myself with. I want someone that I can be comfortable enough around that maybe I'd actually sing for them. I never sang to my ex husbands. I find it odd that I was never comfortable enough with them to actually show that side of myself.
I want to be goofy with someone. I want to laugh and make them laugh just as much. I want to play in the rain and have snowball fights. I want to splash in mud puddles and tackle someone in the leaves and tickle them until they piss themselves. I want to have waterballoon fights, karaoke nights, and binge netflixing. Pizza, anyone?
Is it so bad to want these things without necessarily having a "relationship"? Not that I'm scared of commitment.....Hello? Married and divorced twice here...obviously it doesn't scare me
I'd honestly like to have something like that. I don't necessarily WANT a relationship/boyfriend/significant other. I want someone that I can just chill with. Someone I can connect with on a level that doesn't have to be that deep-oh-my-God-let's-get-married connection. Why does society think that every single/divorced woman is looking for a husband? Pft, I've had two; been there, done that....not in a mad rush to do it again. Do I see myself married again someday? Of course. Eventually....someday, but good Lord not anytime soon. I'm doing good to keep up with my own life; I don't need to be all up in someone else's business. There's nothing wrong with casual dating and dating more than one person at a time--as long as everyone you are seeing knows that you are seeing others, as well.
So yeah, I'm on a dating site again. I got a little frustrated at some of the messages I was getting so I deleted the profile and then a week later, I put it back up and did some editing with the sole purpose of annoying the players and douchebags. Totally expecting to get ZERO messages and zero yeses on the "meet me" feature; I was surprised to log back in and find that my meet me total went up by 30 men in the first 12 hours after the edit. I only got a few new messages, but I'm pretty sure those guys didn't bother reading my entire profile. Probably didn't notice the "wants to date but nothing serious" part, either. It amazes me the things some guys will ignore when they think they can get in your pants just because you are a dating site. Morons.
So anyway, let me know what YOU think....is this description b**chy enough? Or too much?
So, maybe guys like the straightforward approach. Maybe they don't. All I know is, it's certainly entertaining to read some of the responses I've had. Look me up on POF if you wanna, (Firecracker1977). I'm curious to see what other people think about it. My whole point is this: When getting out there and getting to know someone it's important to build a friendship FIRST. In my honest opinion, THAT is where all the best relationships start. You never know until that person is a friend first with no thoughts of getting into a relationship. (yeah, it's called DATING) You get to know the real person inside and out. Just have to be careful when/if the attraction starts. That right there is the real bitch.....and a whole other blog post....
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